My Story

I grew up in Winnipeg Manitoba with my mom, dad, and brother. We had a very fortunate upbringing, filled with incredible memories of adventure, family trips, and summers at the cabin; in my mind we had the perfect fucking family. 

In 1996 my Dad received a job opportunity which took us to Vancouver BC. Leaving my friends wasn't easy, and making new friends was a very scary idea. I did it though. I made new friends, we settled into our new lives, and we loved the new city. Everything was dope...

However, when I was 13 my dad sat our family down and came out to us as gay. I was devastated. I went into shock.  I still remember that feeling like it was yesterday. When my dad told us, I paused. I froze up. Then I burst into tears and ran out of the room. My mom chased after me and all I remember saying to her was "I thought we had the perfect family."

I know now how completely fucked this was for a 13 year old to experience...

We did settle in to our new family life. It was only years later that I realized that what seemed like the worst day of my life, was actually the best. I mean listen...now my parents get to live their truest most authentic lives. They both have loving partners of which they've been with for 18 years. They're both remarried. My dad walked my mom down the aisle at her wedding, and my mom was the officiant at my dad's. We truly have a the most beautiful "modern" family.

While my story is beautiful, the affect on me wasn't. As a result of my parents divorce, and the shock that put me in as a 13 year old boy, I developed a trauma that manifested itself into anxious attachment, co-dependency, and a fear of abandonment. The "nice guy" was born....

This "nice guy" would appear in relationships with romantic partners, with friends, and with family as well. I didn't want anyone to abandon me, so "sure sweetie, we can watch The Titanic for the 50th fucking time (even though I'd love to watch John Wick). No problem at all". I was always a long term relationship guy. Subconsciously  because I was trying to replace the family life I had lost. However, when I would get those long term relationships, and emotional liability would set in, I would become deathly afraid of losing them. So to "protect" myself I would try and control the narrative as much as possible, the "nice guy" was out in full force.

I started going to therapy for this in my early 20's, and would see therapists on and off for the next 5 years or so. In 2012 I met my (then) wife. We got married in 2015, we had 2 beautiful baby boys named Leo & Zé. After our first born, Leo, was born we started to have issues. We were losing connection. We went to couples therapy on and off for 3 years, but ultimately decided to separate in 2020.

When I got separated I had a cathartic experience. I wondered "What was I doing with my life?", "What impact did I want to make on the world?", "Who did I want to become for  my children?",  but most importantly "What time of man did I want to be??".

I wanted to start taking control of my life, my emotional intelligence, and my direction.

I decided it was my mission to grow myself. If I was going to take control of my life, it needed to start with me. I've researched under dozens of mentors, done thousands of hours of research,  had multiple coaches, gone to Hypno Therapy, and done plant medicine ceremonies. All with the mission of unlocking the most powerful man I could be. When I finally broke through that glass ceiling, it became my mission to put everything I'd learnt, and grow through, into a program to other men do the same. It took me 20 years to do this. Now all it can take you is 90 days.